Hello Everyone and welcome to another post!
I had the honor of being part of my childhood best friend’s wedding in November of last year and it was exhausting! I had been the flower-girl in a family friend’s wedding when I was like 5, so obviously I was a little unaware as to how much work I would be doing as a bridesmaid. I’m honestly not sure why I was so shocked at the workload though because I just got married in 2017 and I remember relying on my own bridesmaids a ton.
Anyway I thought I would share a little insight into what is expected of a good bridesmaid, because let me tell you… There are good bridesmaids and there are not so good bridesmaids – and if you ever have the opportunity to be in a wedding that is not your own, you are going to want to do a good job so you aren’t remembered as that one bridesmaid in your favorite cousin’s wedding who didn’t do anything.
Leading up to the big day…
The bride will have a huge To Do and by the time the wedding is two weeks out, she will be exhausted and a complete mess because the wedding is approaching and nothing is done.
Remember the weeks leading up to the wedding are all about doing what you can to make sure the bride and groom are relaxed and unaware of everything that is going wrong.
Pre-Wedding Bridesmaid Advice
- Iron the table clothes – all of them. Even if it means waking up at 5am and going to bed at midnight every day for two weeks.
- Don’t tell the bride when something goes wrong unless it actually is an emergency – so-and-so’s great-uncle who isn’t related to either the bride or groom isn’t actually that important to the wedding unless he is officiating or something, so don’t even worry about him.
- Designate someone to get coffee every morning – if you didn’t drink coffee before, you do now and you need it because you have a lot to get done.
- Make sure the bride gets something to eat – of course she has worried about fitting into her dress for the past 6 weeks, but she still needs to snack on something so she doesn’t faint on her big day. The wedding is her dream, and a hangery bride is not a happy bride.
- ALWAYS check with the bride before making important decisions – you are there to make sure the wedding she has been planning on Pinterest for the last 8 months actually looks like the wedding she has been planning on Pinterest for the last 8 months.
- Be prepared for The Meltdown – all women say they aren’t going to that bride who cries over tea-lights at the rehearsal dinner, but anyone who has gotten married has done something similar and as a bridesmaid you need to armed with tissues and words of affirmation to sooth the bride to be during her “unexpected” breakdown.
- Set up what you can before the Big Day – some venues won’t let you come in until the day of, but if you can set up the night before do it because wedding days for bridesmaids and groomsmen are always complete chaos.
The Big Day…
ITS HERE YOU GUYS… Welcome to chaos.
The bride will think that her day is going to go off without a hitch and she is right. Her wedding will be perfect, but it will also have her bridesmaids running around like maniacs trying to make sure the yellow flowers that were delivered are switched out for the pink ones that the bride ordered. It is your job as a good bridesmaid to not let her see anything that goes wrong at the last minute.
Wedding Day Bridesmaid Advice
- Come prepared – you steamed your dress yesterday, you have your Wedding Emergency Kit full of safety pins and double-sided tape, and you have your makeup for last minute touch-ups. You don’t have anything left to do except make sure the perfect wedding happens in 4 hours…
- Do all the grunt work so the bride can get her hair and makeup done in peaceful bliss – this is huge. You should already know how she wants the tables set up. DO NOT run into the bridal suit to ask the future Mrs. questions that will only stress her out, create solutions not chaos.
- Plan in enough time for you to get ready – of course you will be frantic and running around like crazy. That is not an excuse to walk down the aisle looking like a maniac. You should plan on having everything done with enough time left over so you can put on some antiperspirant deodorant, curl your hair, and throw on some full coverage foundation to hide the bags under your eyes from all the wedding prep.
- Smile big – you made it! All you have to do now is walk down the aisle with the correct groomsmen, make it through the lawn pictures in towering heels, get through the cliché toasts, take everything down, and do a million other things. Which reminds me…
- Take a change of clothes – nobody wants to be taking down an entire venue in heels, Spanks, and a ball gown.
Post-Wedding Bridesmaid Advice
- Return your rentals on time – be responsible. If the future bride rented chairs, bow ties, or dresses and it is your job to return them, make sure you take them back on time so the bride and groom don’t have to pay late fees right after they just dropped $10,000 on their dream wedding.
- Make sure all the decorations the bride brought with her make their way back to her and don’t accidentally get misplaced in venue’s storage closet – even if the newlyweds are already on their honeymoon, the wedding is not over until the bride gets all her stuff back.
Did I miss anything? If I did, comment what advice do you have for any future bridesmaids.
Also if you guys want to read more about my wedding you are more then welcome to check out my post: The Wedding
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