My First Blogiversary

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Hello everyone and welcome to another post!

This post is so exciting for me to write because today is my first Blogiversary!

I thought I would do something fun to celebrate the day so I am going to do the “Your Blogging Career” questionnaire.

Even though this questionnaire originated on the blog Aroused, I first discovered it on the blog Keep it Alive and I thought it was such a good idea.

By the way, if you haven’t checked out either of these blogs yet you definitely should. Both are amazing and full of wonderful energy and positive vibes.

Your Blogging Career

Please share a brief history of your blogging career –

From what lead you to start?

I actually started blogging on a whim. I had just gotten married, relocated to Montana, didn’t know how to be a housewife, and had no friends or family to help me out. I have always kept a daily journal so I figured why not write about what I’m going through? If one person reads what I’m writing and is helped by it or finds enjoyment from my blog, it will be a success.

Has your motivation changed since starting?

Mostly no, but I would eventually like to have enough of an audience to use my blog as a supplemental income. So now my motivation comes from myself just like it always has, and it also comes from not wanting to let my followers down.

What has the experience been like?

To date, I have never had a bad day as a “blogger”. Everyone is so sweet, so positive, so uplifting and I have honestly discovered the most amazing support group though my blog.

Have you learned anything?

Yes! I learned that you should not monetize your blog when you get 100 followers because you will only make $0.03 per month. I also learned that you should consider investing in your blog when you have at least 10,000 views per month. That is a lot of views that I do not currently have and I’m not sure I will get there anytime soon, but if I want to make money (and I do) that is the goal.

Has your writing style changed?

Yes and no. Yes because I am mindful of my audience and I don’t want to be offensive with my writing. Also yes because I have become so much more confident in my writing, my blog and being online in general. And no because I never publish anything unless my voice shines though.

Are you planning to write a novel or are you already published?

When I was young it was my dream to be Jane Austin but I think I’m ok with just my blog. I honestly don’t know if I have enough inspiration to write a book.

What advice would you give to a new blogger?

Everyone says “don’t focus on the numbers”. I think you should be mindful of your numbers but not obsessive about them and you should not measure your success based on the success of other bloggers. We are all on different journeys and we have all started at different times so if you want to get discouraged and quit, feel free to compare yourself to someone else.

That being said you should be goal oriented and measure the success of your blog based on whether or not you are hitting your personal benchmarks and you should follow blogs that you think are successful because it will inspire you to keep writing and keep growing your blog until you achieve your success.

And please don’t forget to mention some of the highlights along the way – such as the people you’ve met, the things you’ve learned…

I am going to mention a few bloggers who I have either been following since the beginning or who have been following me from the beginning because they will always have a special place in my heart.

These are the bloggers who have inspired me when I had no inspiration and who always comment kind things on my blogs.

Currently, Lately

Hunida’s Blog

Welcome To Our Campfire🔥

All The Shoes I Wear

Bitchin’ in the Kitchen

So before I go, I would like to give a huge shoutout to everyone who has liked, commented, followed, or read any of my posts!

You literally enhance my blogging experience so much and fill my life with so much kindness and positivity.

I’m so shocked and honored that you guys have been on this journey with me for a whole year and I hope you stick around to see how the rest of my journey unfolds!

Thanks for joining me today!

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Today is My Due Date

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Hello everyone and welcome to another post!

Today is my due date and if I hadn’t miscarried last August I would be bringing home our little bundle of joy any day now. So I thought I would pop on here and do a quick “postpartum” mental health update.

Before I jump into my feelings and all that stuff I would like to say that there isn’t a ton of post-miscarriage mental health information. I’m so glad that people are finally talking about postpartum depression and anxiety, but I tried researching post-miscarriage mental health and it seemed like there is hardly any information about it. So since there is a lack of information and I have experienced it, I thought I would share my story in case anyone has experienced a loss like this or of any kind and wants to hear a personal story.

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I did ask my OB in August what I should do if I get depression or anxiety because as you know, I have always had sad days and days where I just can’t seem to find the motivation to get out of bed. My OB gave me a Depression Screening which I passed and told me if I felt depressed to come back in and she would prescribe me something to make me better.

Of course I believe in medication but I also believe in healthy coping mechanisms and a holistic approach and my OB didn’t seem like she wanted to give me any other recources except counceling and medication.

So in order to prevent myself from being medicated unless absolutely necessary, I hardly told anyone about what I was really going through and I did my best to power through it.

I will say that I was completely unprepared for this mental health journey. Like I said, I know my depression pretty well and have built up tool-belt of positive coping mechanisms over the years to help me through it. I was expecting depression, but I actually met anxiety for the first time in my life.

Of course I get nervous about public speaking and things like that but I’ve never had a panic or anxiety attack and I did for the first time in my life after losing the baby.

It was the day after I lost the baby and I was trying to put the dishes away. All of a sudden it was like the weight of the world was on my shoulders and I felt like I had let myself down, my husband down and everyone in my family down; and for some reason I couldn’t catch my breathe. The harder I tried to breath my way through my feelings the more it felt like an elephant of sadness was sitting on my chest laughing at me for my failures. The more I tried to breath the tighter my chest got and the more my throat closed up. It wasn’t until Mike came into the kitchen to get a glass of water that I was distracted enough to finally be able to breath again.

That was the first time I experienced an anxiety attack and I haven’t had one that extreme since then. But I do still get fits of irrational anxiety. Like every time I need to leave the house a little voice comes on in my mind and tells me things like “You can’t leave the house because something bad will happen.” Its the strangest thing and I don’t have an anxiety tool-kit full of positive coping mechanisms yet. So if anyone has any suggestions, I am all ears.

Anyway its been 6 months and I’m heartbroken I don’t get to take my baby boy home today, but I have learned so much about myself; how I grieve, how my husband grieves, what anxiety feels like, and what it feels like to make it through the tunnel of sadness to the other side.

I’m finally almost back to my normal self again and I am so glad.

Before I end this post, I would also like to give a huge shoutout to my husband Mike. I honestly don’t know what I would do without him or where I would be. He has made everything so easy and has never had an unkind thing to say about my bad days. I hope I have been as much of a rock to him as he has been to me during this past year of grief.

Thanks for joining me today!

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Tips and Tricks: House-training Your Puppy

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Hello everyone and welcome to another post!

If you don’t already know, we got a puppy for Christmas/our first anniversary and let me tell you it is totally different from having a kitten.

I thought since we had Kevin for a few months, I was prepared for taking on a puppy.

I don’t know what I was thinking, Kevin and Cooper couldn’t be more different. Kevin will sit quietly on your lap purring up a storm while Cooper is a wiggle worm ball of wild energy. It is impossible to keep him still, which is to be expected because he is a puppy. I just thought he would calm down every once in a while so I can enjoy my coffee without being trampled in a storm of puppy love and affection.

But the differences between cats and dogs is a post for a another day.

I would like to talk about house-training puppies and dogs.

First let me say that having Kevin did not prepare me at all for the task of house-training a puppy.

Okay. Let’s jump right in!

 

General Information

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Your puppy will take a little while to get used to their new home and because he or she is nervous to be in a new environment, they will probably have plenty of accidents during the first few days. Don’t let that discourage you. Your puppy is just young and learning which places are appropriate potty spots and which aren’t.

It is also important to remember that a puppy is young. They won’t be able to hold it for very long because they have short attention spans and tiny bladders. Patience and kindness are going to be your best friend during the house-training days.

One more thing to remember is that your puppy will display certain behavior such as sniffing the floor, going to a corner and just generally looking like they need to go. So make sure you pay attention and let them out in order to prevent accidents.

House-Training Tips

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Put your puppy on a schedule. It took Cooper about a week before he got the hang of it, but he knows now when he can go outside, when its time to play, when its time to eat and when its time for bed.

Take your puppy outside before transitioning to another activity to prevent accidents. For example: Right after they wake up, take them out. Right after they eat, take them out. Right after they play, take them out. This way they have plenty of opportunities to relieve themselves out of the house.

Take your puppy to the same “potty spot” each time. This teaches them that there is one appropriate spot to do their business and that going in any other spots including in the house will not be acceptable.

Reward good behavior. Every time your puppy goes outside successfully, give them tons of verbal praise and a treat. This is more effective than punishing your puppy for having an accident. Think about it, if all you ever heard was negative feedback, you would probably get depressed and have anxiety. It’s the same way with puppies. They also have hormonal responses to the tone of your voice, so they release Oxytocin  when they are praised (making them more likely to repeat the activity) and stress hormones when they are yelled at or hit (making them more nervous and more likely to have another accident).

So there you have it folks, those are the things I learned first hand from attempting to house-train a puppy after I spent hours researching “how to house-train a puppy”.

 

If you want to know more about Kevin, you can either check out my previous post New Kitten! or New Kitten: Name Reveal

If you want to know more about how I litter-box trained Kevin you are more than welcome to see my post Tips and Tricks: Litterbox Training

And if you want to know more about Cooper you can look at my post New Puppy: Welcome to the Fam Cooper!

Thanks for joining me today!

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